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If you've ever felt like a writer on an emotional roller coaster, you're not alone—and there's actually a pattern. You start out excited, then sink lower, and then back up again. At least those are the four stages I go through. Read on to discover the four emotional stages every creative goes through—from initial excitement to critical feedback. Learn how to navigate each stage and keep writing. See if you can relate.
The Four Stages Explained
Stage 1: Excitement
I have a new idea, and it is the best idea ever! This could also be called “TheShiny Manuscript Syndrome.” You’re brainstorming and everything is clicking. Or maybe you have written a first chapter (or first few) and the words just fly out of your fingers. I love this stage, but like infatuation, it never lasts long. It’s this stage I look back longingly for when I’m in the murky middle.
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Me in Stage 1! A brand new idea!
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Stage 2: Getting Serious
Maybe you’ve hit a snag with your plot. You get stuck and must circle back to a previous scene and rework. Or maybe you’re on chapter two or ten and writing each word is like squeezing blood from a turnip. Welcome to the real world of writing. For me, the first three chapters usually come easily. But around chapter four I need to make myself write. You will get through this if you keep your head down.
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| Stage Two: Plugging away! (Notice that I write at my dining room table.) |
Stage 3: You're Finished!
Maybe you are finishing the first draft or the seventy-seventh or maybe you finally sent out a query or hit publish on KDP. But the high that you get with finishing—whether it’s a complete novel, a short story, or a poem—is a high that can’t be beat. You want to tell the world, “Hey, um, I finished this Thing.” And people, if they are not writers, might not understand. Celebrate, you did something, but here's where the real test begins. Stage Four is coming.
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| Finished! |
Stage 4: Critical Feedback
You get feedback or rejections or critical reviews. This is a hard stage. After the euphoria of Stage Three, after finishing an entire book (and maybe editing it multiple times), this stage is hard. Maybe there’s a plot hole you never saw (of course there is!). Or maybe a character is not as well-rounded as she was in your head. Or maybe your ending didn’t land. Or maybe you get a one-star review. When I get feedback, I usually go through three stages of grief (shock, anger, depression) until I realize that feedback is helpful, and then, you guessed it, I’m back to Stage One. Now, instead of a new idea, I have the best idea ever for fixing this manuscript. This is where I am right now. I've just gotten mostly positive feedback from betas, but I have a few more tweaks to tackle this month.
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| Notes from a beta reader, not very critical, but you get the idea. |
Rinse and Repeat and Grow.
The writer’s journey is long with so many ups and downs. It’s not just the challenge of getting your work published or selling those books but fighting those voices of discouragement. This cycle is normal and worth it.
How do you cope with discouragement and doubt?
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Yes, the important thing is to grow as a writer from the process. I remember the days when I was so excited about writing, even though my writing wasn't very good back then.
ReplyDeleteYes, it's so fun when you are just first starting out! And in some ways it's easier when you don't know what you still need to learn.
DeleteThat's exactly it! I'm probably least excited during the first draft stage.
ReplyDeleteOh, interesting! The first draft is hard, especially staring at that blank page.
DeleteYeah... But that critical feedback in early stages is 100% necessary. Reviewers can be SO brutal. Better to hear it early on, eh?
ReplyDeleteI like to get my critical feedback when I'm close to the end or at least have a finished draft. But yes, it's absolutely essential!
DeleteWe have an almost identical process 🌹and I love that you wrote how a new idea seems "the best ever," because I find it necessary to feel thus or I wouldn't have the gumption to undertake yet another writing journey I already know will be long and laborious if I didn't feel it is my best idea ever... regardless of whether this turns out to be so, at least until the next one.✍🏻
ReplyDeleteGreat point! We have to believe in our idea and be excited before we start the long marathon of actually writing it.
DeleteThat sums it up nicely, especially the grief stages. Well said:)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sandra!
DeleteSo interesting, Jenni! And thanks for sharing a link on our Facebook site. Enjoy today!
ReplyDeleteThank you! I will!
DeleteOh boy, do I recognize that cycle! @samanthabwriter from
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Glad to know I'm not the only one! :)
DeleteThis is great, Jenni! And you are correct. At least you are for me. But like you said, we need to buck up and revise accordingly. I LOVE your phrase: "squeezing blood from a turnip." It. Is. Perfect! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Victoria! It's really hard to push through that turnip phase, isn't it?
DeleteI never feel completely done until I read my critter's feedback. It may go back to a time when I didn't trust myself to see all that I needed to improve. Critters and beta readers make everything better. :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, it really helps to have that feedback, either to know you're on track or you need to fix something. We don't have enough distance to see our work clearly.
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ReplyDeleteI think every writer that really cares about what they write, fall into periods of discouragement for disappointment, especially when they are in the revising stage. We forget that there is no perfect way to write anything because we are not perfect people.
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Yes, that's such a great point! I'm learning that too. I can try to make something as good as I can, but it will never be perfect.
DeleteI hate stage 4. When I get a critique, my first thought is as if I instantly revert to an angsty teenager: 'they don't understand me.' It takes me some mulling around before I can extract the useful bits from any critique.
ReplyDeleteYes! That is often my first response too. I always need to let a harsh critique sit for a few days before I realize that, maybe
Deletethey have a point.
Good summary of the process. Not many people know that after publishing, things aren't always roses and sunshine. Of course, there's also marketing, which is supposed to start before publishing. So, so much to do...
ReplyDeleteHappy IWSG day! I'm co-hosting this month.
"A good book gets better at the second reading. A great book at the third." — Tyler DeVries
J (he/him 👨🏽 or 🧑🏽 they/them) @JLenniDorner ~ Speculative Fiction & Reference Author and Co-host of the April Blogging #AtoZChallenge international blog hop
Yes, marketing is it's own skill set. So many hats to wear as an author, but I do enjoy learning new things.
DeleteI enjoyed your summary of the process. :) Happy Writing!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Yvonne!
DeleteFor some of us, that editing can last a long time, especially in the beginning. lol
ReplyDeleteDefinitely! It is the stage that lasts the longest for me
DeleteMy local critique group helps me hit stage 4 often... They are quite brutal at times, but I'm the better writer for it!
ReplyDeleteSounds like a good group! It's always hard getting critical feedback, but so important!
DeleteThanks for stopping by my blog. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on creativity. I think so many writers devalue feedback because of their fear of rejection, but I crave feedback. I take anything I don't like with a grain of salt. I'm always looking to grow as a writer.
ReplyDeleteI am like you! I get frustrated when I just hear positives. I really want to grow and get better. Of course, like you said, you have to filter it and only keep what resonates and works for your story.
DeleteI think you pretty well summed up the process! I somehow always think I have a pretty good product to send to my beta readers, and I always get feedback that tells me I'm not done.
ReplyDeleteYes, exactly! But it's good to get to the point that you feel like you've done all you can before you give it someone else to catch those blindspots.
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